Why You May Not Be Achieving Your Goals
Let’s talk about goals.
It’s that time of year where everyone is talking about their New Year’s Resolutions. I resolve to do this_____. I have my list of resolutions. I going to do this and this.
I’m here to tell you, resolutions are nothing more than your to-do list for the first couple of weeks of January.
You know what I’m talking about. Let’s take the resolution to get fit and lose weight. So you go to the gym. And the first couple of weeks in the year it’s full of people. Every machine is taken. Then you go back toward the end of January, and it’s crickets!
That’s the way it can be with resolutions.
Let’s talk about setting goals instead of making resolutions.
I had an experience around setting goals in October. And this was a life-changing experience.
I was in a workshop and we were doing an exercise on setting goals and then setting our intentions and action steps to reach those goals.
I did what I usually do, and that was write down some things that I knew I could easily achieve without any effort. Basically fluff.
Then the facilitator asked me to share what I had written. I felt pretty good about it, so I shared. The facilitator looked at me and said “I’m calling bullsh*t on that!”
I just looked at him incredulously. What?
He said, “I know you, and you aren’t playing full out.”
He was right. And I burst into tears. (I’m not one who easily cries, so this was pretty deep).
He asked me what was going on and I responded, “I freaking hate to set goals because I don’t want to face being a failure when I don’t hit them.” (I used another word, and we’ll keep it PG-13 here.)
WOW! Did I just say that in front of a room full of people I had just met 3 days ago? The mentors? The owners of the company? Yep, I sure did.
That was the breakthrough. I admitted I didn’t write goals because I didn’t want to face failure.
But, that wasn’t the end of the story.
I came home and did some work to get to what was underneath this fear. I have done mindset work for many years and even coach mindset, so I knew it was time to discover and release.
I did that work, and released some longly held limiting beliefs I was carrying that I wasn’t even aware of.
That was the transformation.
The result? I have solid goals for 2020. They are SMART—you know, Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time bound.
I hired a coach to help me get organized and act as my accountability partner.
You may not be in the same place as me, but you may be paralyzed about setting goals. It’s OK!! Because you can make the choice to not stay stuck.
You can choose to write one teeny tiny goal and get started there. It may be something like read an inspirational story once a week, or make one connection with someone new this week. It doesn’t have to be the end all-be all goal.
The key is to just get started.
I upped my game, and for the first time ever, am so inspired and excited to greet the new year. In the past I was sort of “Meh” over new year’s because I didn’t have anything to really look forward to. I just knew it would result in failure.
This year is different. This year, I’m ready to slay my goals and hit those achievements.
It’s there for you too!
If you don’t know where to start, schedule a business chat with me. I’ll help you get focused on those dreams and desires you have for your life and business, that you have been too afraid to admit.
Take a leap for yourself. Schedule that business chat here.
Don’t let your fears overtake your life. Be bold! I know you can!
See you soon!